Please excuse this post. I just need somewhere to express my anger, before I express it on someones face. I'll try my best not to use nasty words, I like my blog to be clean.. But I am just sooo f***ing pissed!
So James. Remember him? That amazing guy I was so madly in love with, the perfect guy who loved me more than anything and couldn't wait to meet his daughter who he was going to be the best dad to? Yeah.. That James is non-existant. Dont get me wrong, he can still be a great guy when he wants to be.. It's just.. He doesn't want to be one at the moment. He hasn't seen Lilia in eight days (which is a long time, considering she's only nineteen days old) and it's really annoying me. Just before she was born, after we broke up, James made a huge fuss about how he wanted to see her every day. I said that was no problem and that he could come over my mother's house every day after work to visit her. He said he wanted her on weekends, but me being an over-protective mother said he could only have her over his on weekends provided I was there too. He didn't really take it personally and said fine, I could stay in the spare room (which was going to be Lilia's nursery) with her. So we made that agreement and for the first five days of her life, we stuck to it. James was over every day. When it came to the weekend, he didn't want to see her. Then he didn't see her all week because he was busy at work, until Thursday last week. Thursday he came over and gave me £20 to buy her milk, nappies, wipes, whatever I needed. He stayed for an hour, gave her a quick cuddle, then left. He hasn't seen her since. I've invited him over many times, but he's always said he's busy.
He told me he was busy earning money by doing DIY jobs for people in his street. I thought that was fair enough, because I need more money for the baby's milk and he knows this. I invited him to come round today but he said no. So I said that I need money for formula and asked him if I could have some of the money he'd earned. He said he was too busy to give it to me, so I offerec to bring the baby 'round to the bungalow to see him and I'd pick it up... Then the truth came out. He said he didn't want to give me any of his money because he worked too hard earning it, and he wanted to spend it on drink to reward himself for working so hard.. So he's choosing drink over his daughter. He better shape up soon or I won't be letting him see her at all.
It's just kinda worrying because he's already on the birth certificate. He could take her whenever he wanted and it would be allowed, I wouldn't be able to do anything about it. I'm nervous about that, but I doubt he'd actually do something like that.
F***ing b****** of a man!
I know what you mean, Tom's in the same position. He's on the birth certificate and one weekend I could take Kye over to his place and he could just take him and not give him back and in a way there would be nothing I could do about it because he's his father. Currently things are going well, but it could change in a split second. It's a scary thought and I don't actually think he would do that but over the time I was with him I saw him do lots of things I never thought he would do. If it continues you should look into getting a order for child support and also some form of legal custody agreement, not to keep him from Lilia but just to protect both of you and give you a little piece of mine.
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