James has a brother, Daniel, who slept with a, what only can be described as, psycho's boyfriend. He caused a lot of trouble for James, and came knocking on James' mother's house and threatening her, etc. He got sent to court and he has been charged with 11 things. I'm not going to get into everything that happened, but Daniel now lives in hiding from this guy with his now ex girlfriend. Daniel and the girl are now engaged.
Daniel and James argued over the psycho threatening James' mum and he beat James up. I shouted at Daniel, telling him he as stupid - James was only sticking up for his mother, which he shouldn't have done because it was DANIEL'S mess to begin with! Anyway James' sister Coral and I ended up arguing because I shouldn't have got involved. I thought that was a fair point so I apologised to James and Coral for getting involved, and causing any more trouble (I didn't, but I apologised anyway) and I apologised to Daniel for ever having a go at him. I told him I was wrong and he was really short and rude with me after I apologised. In my opinion I shouldn't have apologised in the first place! Not to him anyway. What he did was truly sick and wrong and I do NOT agree with it at all! But I sucked in my pride and apologised, to get a measly 'ok' back from him and he didn't even apologise to James.
This was way back before I was pregnant, and he hasn't spoken to me since. James is also waiting for an apology. Which we know will never come.
I went down to see Daniel and his girlfriend so they could meet Lilia, and I've spoken to his girlfriend once since. This was when Lilia was like three months old. Dan said hello to me and wasn't really rude, but he wasn't exactly friendly either.
Anyway.. My rant. - James was texting his brother about Lilia and they were both speaking better than they have spoken in months, if not years. He mentioned that Dan should see Lilia again and Daniel agreed. He then texted a second after agreeing saying "but try not to bring Isabella if you can, you know what I think of her". Well. James was absolutely FUMING. He phoned Daniel and screamed down the phone to him - he said that at the end of the day I'm the mother of his daughter and the mother of Dan's niece. They are now not speaking (this only happened this morning) and it's apparently James' fault. James' mother said she doesn't want to get involved and she has said that James shouldn't have argued, he should have just agreed.
I don't really care what Daniel thinks of me to be honest, that's not was pissed me off. It was the fact that only James stuck up for me.. Then HE got made out to be the bad guy! Lilia does not go ANYWHERE without my permission. And if I don't like where she's going but I feel she should go (ie to visit family) then I go with her. Daniel smokes dope and him and his girlfriend's family all smoke in the house with no windows or doors open. I would HAVE to go down there with Lilia to make sure that if they start smoking I can take her out of the house. But no. James was basically told I am unwanted there.
I don't want to deprive Lilia from her Uncle, but at the end of the day I am her MOTHER. If he wants anything to do with her then he obviously has to have something to do with me! I'm not stopping him from seeing her, but I am just saying that he will have to start being a bit nicer to/about me if he wants her to go down to where he lives! Because she certainly isn't going without me! I know I got involved when I shouldn't have, but how the HECK am I the bad person?! I stuck up for someone innocent and told someone that what they did was wrong. Okay, I admit, I could have said it a lot nicer. But at the end of the day he beat up my boyfriend (at the time) for no good reason. In fact it was for him doing something that he should have done himself! He brought all the trouble to his mother's door so he should have sorted it, not James!
Ugh. So James told me Daniel said that about me, and he said it was really unfair and he got so upset about it. But now James is the bad person according to his family. And so am I for wanted to keep an eye on my daughter when she goes down there! His family have said Lilia should be able to go without me.
Do you think I'm being unreasonable in wanted to make sure no one breathes any type of smoke- especially WEED- in her face?! Because I certainly don't! James won't go down there and no one else would keep an eye, so it's up to me! If they don't want me down there then fine, but Lilia is NOT and NEVER WILL go down there without me!
So I am sitting here chilling with a glass of wine while Lilia babbles away in her bouncer. It is 11:40pm and she's WIDE awake. She had her jabs and slept since them (I tried waking her but in the end I gave in - she obviously needed the rest) so now she is wide awake when it comes to me wanting to go to bed! Great, ha ha!
This was way back before I was pregnant, and he hasn't spoken to me since. James is also waiting for an apology. Which we know will never come.
I went down to see Daniel and his girlfriend so they could meet Lilia, and I've spoken to his girlfriend once since. This was when Lilia was like three months old. Dan said hello to me and wasn't really rude, but he wasn't exactly friendly either.
Anyway.. My rant. - James was texting his brother about Lilia and they were both speaking better than they have spoken in months, if not years. He mentioned that Dan should see Lilia again and Daniel agreed. He then texted a second after agreeing saying "but try not to bring Isabella if you can, you know what I think of her". Well. James was absolutely FUMING. He phoned Daniel and screamed down the phone to him - he said that at the end of the day I'm the mother of his daughter and the mother of Dan's niece. They are now not speaking (this only happened this morning) and it's apparently James' fault. James' mother said she doesn't want to get involved and she has said that James shouldn't have argued, he should have just agreed.
I don't really care what Daniel thinks of me to be honest, that's not was pissed me off. It was the fact that only James stuck up for me.. Then HE got made out to be the bad guy! Lilia does not go ANYWHERE without my permission. And if I don't like where she's going but I feel she should go (ie to visit family) then I go with her. Daniel smokes dope and him and his girlfriend's family all smoke in the house with no windows or doors open. I would HAVE to go down there with Lilia to make sure that if they start smoking I can take her out of the house. But no. James was basically told I am unwanted there.
I don't want to deprive Lilia from her Uncle, but at the end of the day I am her MOTHER. If he wants anything to do with her then he obviously has to have something to do with me! I'm not stopping him from seeing her, but I am just saying that he will have to start being a bit nicer to/about me if he wants her to go down to where he lives! Because she certainly isn't going without me! I know I got involved when I shouldn't have, but how the HECK am I the bad person?! I stuck up for someone innocent and told someone that what they did was wrong. Okay, I admit, I could have said it a lot nicer. But at the end of the day he beat up my boyfriend (at the time) for no good reason. In fact it was for him doing something that he should have done himself! He brought all the trouble to his mother's door so he should have sorted it, not James!
Ugh. So James told me Daniel said that about me, and he said it was really unfair and he got so upset about it. But now James is the bad person according to his family. And so am I for wanted to keep an eye on my daughter when she goes down there! His family have said Lilia should be able to go without me.
Do you think I'm being unreasonable in wanted to make sure no one breathes any type of smoke- especially WEED- in her face?! Because I certainly don't! James won't go down there and no one else would keep an eye, so it's up to me! If they don't want me down there then fine, but Lilia is NOT and NEVER WILL go down there without me!
So I am sitting here chilling with a glass of wine while Lilia babbles away in her bouncer. It is 11:40pm and she's WIDE awake. She had her jabs and slept since them (I tried waking her but in the end I gave in - she obviously needed the rest) so now she is wide awake when it comes to me wanting to go to bed! Great, ha ha!
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